Earlier this month, singer/songwriter/author/entertainer/entrepreneur/pilot/sailor/beach bum Jimmy Buffett died from a rare form of skin cancer. As I said some time back regarding the death of Rolling Stones drummer Charlie Watts, I don't normally get bent out of shape over celebrity deaths just because I don't know them personally. I've had the pleasure of meeting a few and shaking some hands in my life, but I never got to know them as people. But as I get older, if a celebrity's work leaves a lasting impression on me, their death does tend to hurt. Like Charlie Watts, Jimmy Buffett's passing hurts.
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18 March, 2023
Likes, Dislikes, Compulsive List-Making, and Malleable Meanings
For about a year, I had a digital subscription to The New York Times. Unfortunately, about a year ago, the economy went to pot. Since pot is still illegal in the state where I live, I found myself in a position where I had to drop the subscription in order to save a few bucks each month. However, I still get their daily newsletter in my email (and I play Wordle on the app).
In the newsletter for Saturday, 18 March, 2023, Melissa Kirsch mentioned a list of likes and dislikes by the author Susan Sontag which she "stumble[s] across" with what would appear to be some degree of regularity. Sadly, whenever Sontag's name is brought up, I'm always reminded of one reviewer who described her novels as "self-indulgent, overrated crap." Since I've never read any of her novels and, therefore, can't back up that opinion, I looked at her list of likes and dislikes.
As a compulsive list-maker myself, I was thoroughly fascinated by these brief glimpses into Sontag's personality. Part of me wants to know the context, although, strangely, I really enjoy the mystery of not knowing--why, for example, did she like Louis XIII furniture? Why did she not like Robert Frost? And, since she didn't specify, did she not like Frost the man, or was she just not a fan of his poetry? Or, perhaps maybe she knew a completely different person named Robert Frost who was just an asshole?
As Kirsch writes, "Each item taken alone could be passed off as a caprice, but in the list, there are clues to the person--a person who likes babies but dislikes couples, who likes the smell of mowed grass but dislikes the cold... Absent any explanation, the meaning of the list is malleable." Frankly, I like that about lists like this. I particularly enjoy the possibility of one's likes and dislikes seeming to be contradictory. And I love the fact that it probably is not contradictory to the person who made the list.
Another point that tickles my fancy is that, as Kirsch also points out, "One's likes and dislikes are forever changing, too, which permits a person to be complicated and fickle and to change their mind." While my likes and dislikes have been cultivated from a lifetime of personal experience, I like a lot of things that I didn't like when I was younger, like punk rock. The reverse is also true--when I was a child, I loved bananas. I ate them frequently. Today, I'm physically repulsed by them. Even just the smell of a banana makes me nauseous.
As I said, I am a compulsive list-maker myself. My lists are usually centered around popular culture--best cinematic death scenes, best songs to play in the car, favourite guitarists, etc. I seldom find myself making practical lists--I don't have "to-do" lists, for example. Even my ability to make grocery lists is spotty. For some reason, though, I've never made a list as simple as basic likes and dislikes.
I was surprised by the amount of soul-searching that went into it, particularly my list of dislikes. I found myself asking how revealing I wanted to be. After all, a lot of the items I put on the list could potentially bring some questions and criticisms (an admittedly unlikely possibility, given the number of people likely to read this). As much as I enjoy screwing with people, how contradictory do I want to sound? Should I let the reader ponder the fact that I like Reese's Peanut Butter Cups, but I don't like peanut butter... or even peanuts?
One of the things I like about this is that I can't be comprehensive. There are too many things I like and dislike that I can't possibly mention all of them. There are also a lot of things that, at this point in my life, I've never experienced. For example, I've never had escargot, therefore, I don't know if I like it or not. Consequently, I'm sure I'll revisit this in a future post... one day, after I've had some new experiences and don't have anything else to write about. In the meantime, I've kept my lists to fifteen items apiece.
Things I like: Watching old black and white movies on a rainy Saturday afternoon, watching Steve McQueen films on a Sunday morning (the actor Steve McQueen, not the director), medium rare steak, bagpipe music, peeling dried rubber cement from any object, slowly opening a two-liter bottle of soda for the first time and feeling the label crumple in the palm of my hand, psychedelic rock music of the 1960s, women who don't shave their body hair, emptying a really full three-hole punch, stick shifts, cheeseburgers, the feeling of my teeth biting into a mushroom, bibliosmia, Art Deco, and single malt Scotch.
Things I dislike: Cole slaw, parking garages with cheaply produced automatic gates, having to repeat myself, bureaucracies, the ringing of a telephone, texting abbreviations (OMG, it's like we live in a world of eight-year-olds. Seriously, WTF?), human stupidity (especially my own), people who mispronounce the word "nuclear," cooked tomatoes, raw celery, people who say "unquote" instead of "end quote," our collective dependence on cell phones (especially my own), Daylight Saving Time, and having to repeat myself.
Now that I've gotten that off my chest, please feel free to share some of yours and I'm actually happy to discuss my list if you really want context.